My Sweet Oldest Son

I've had arthitis on and off since I was about 17. A few years ago I discovered that if I drink large amounts of lemon juice when I am having an episode of arthritis, the pain will usually be gone by the next day. For the past month or so, when I've been busy doing something, my oldest son Austin sneaks in the kitchen and makes lemon juice water for me. If I walk in the kitchen when he is making it, he gets so dissapointed because he loves giving it to me as a surprise. It's one of those things that is so precious to me.

If I had a personal chef, I would have them lightly grill me asparagus every night and bring me lemon water all day. I feel so blessed and spoiled every time he brings me the drink. Sometimes he'll juice limes or oranges and bring me the juice in cold water. So I just want to let the world know what a sweet son I have!

A Gold Nugget on Marriage

A person panning for gold often works for hours or days or months to find that one valuable gold nugget. Life can be like that. I try to learn all I can, and sometimes I get blessed with a gold nugget—something I learn or remember that significantly helps my life. I want to add the gold nuggets I learn to this blog.

Today I want to start with a marriage gold nugget. This came courtesy of my husband’s instruction. He said to me, “Why don’t you ever make me a favorite meal to show me how much you appreciate my hard work?” Which is funny, because I only cook the foods he likes. And I try to regularly tell him thanks for working and to encourage him. But a lightbulb went on in my head: I can tie those things together for a double whammy. I can actually give more meaning to what I am already doing just by attaching a greater verbal reason to it. When I clean the house a little better than usual, I can say, “I cleaned the house extra good for you because you’ve been working so hard to provide for us.” Or, if I add candy to his lunch, I can say, “I added peanut butter cups to your lunch today as a treat for you because you are such a great father and you spend time with the kids everyday. So this is a reward.” Now, I was already putting the peanut butter cups in anyway, but this makes it more special for him. And I am doing it as a way to show love and appreciation, I just need to remember to tell him that.

A Time to War

"There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven--...A time for war..."Eccles. 3:1,8b

The last 3 months could definitely be in the running for the hardest 3 months of my life. When things are easy, I have a tendency to forget I am in a war. But when things become hard, those trials become the alarm clock that wake me up to reality. And the reality is, God has called me to battle.

I am called to be a soldier. A soldier is always ready for battle. I need to be armed and ready to fight for my family and all the saints in prayer; to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ; and to always remember I am not wrestling against flesh and blood but spiritual hosts of wickedness.

Because unforseen circumstances with our economy have hit us hard, I can easily find myself on the verge of really feeling sorry for myself. It's a horrid sin, and the absolute OPPOSITE of God's will for my life. God's will is that I would be thankful for our financial trials. Really, truly, genuinely thankful because I know and am CONVINCED that God is good and that these trials are producing in me a far greater and eternal weight of glory.

I also need to remember that God is using these difficult times to produce patience in me. As a woman, patience is a great virtue. I casually define patience as "being able to wait WITHOUT SINNING." This means that when things are really hard, my heart is just as content and joyful as if things were easy, because I am fully trusting in God and my eyes are fixed on eternity. I can rejoice because God is providing me with a great opportunit to increase my patience, to practice giving thanks in all circumstances, and to remember I am in a war as a soldier and my duty is to endure hardship faithfully.

"In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thessalonians 5:18

"Endure hardship with us like a good soldier of Christ Jesus." 2 Timothy 2:3

"For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison." 2 Corinthians 4:17

"My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience." James 1:2-3

What Would Jesus Do?

"We put no obstacle in anyone's way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry, but as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: by great endurance, in afflictions, hardships, calamities, beatings, imprisonments, riots, labors, sleepless nights, hunger; by purity, knowledge, patience, kindness, the Holy Spirit, genuine love; by truthful speech, and the power of God; with the weapons of righteousness for the right hand and for the left; through honor and dishonor, through slander and praise. We are treated as impostors, and yet are true." 2 Corinthians 6:3-8

Did you notice the last sentence in the above verses? It reminds me of an event that just happened to some friends of mine. In fact, though the event just happened, it happens so often I had to blog about it.

In the above verses, Paul tells us that he was treated like an imposter for preaching the gospel of Jesus. Just a few nights ago a group of my friends were teaching people about Jesus. While standing outside of a local Starbucks, they passed out tracts and shared the gospel to the people passing by. A girl came up to them, and began angrily yelling along the lines of, “Would Jesus have done this? Would Jesus have told people they were going to hell? This isn’t the way to reach people! You need to use your actions to preach the gospel!” By her statements, she was implying they were imposters—imposters to true Christianity!

But, to answer her questions: YES! Did would and DID do this!

In Luke 13:15 Jesus said, "No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish."

In Matthew 5:22 Jesus said, "But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire."

In Luke 12:4-5 Jesus said, "I tell you, my friends, do not fear those who kill the body, and after that have nothing more that they can do. But I will warn you whom to fear: fear him who, after he has killed, has authority to cast into hell. Yes, I tell you, fear him!" (If hell is not REAL and if hell is not SCARY, why would Jesus give such a bold warning?)

And then, in Matthew 23:33 Jesus says, "You serpents, you brood of vipers, how are you to escape being sentenced to hell?"

So Yes! Jesus WOULD and DID talk about hell. He knows it is a REAL and SCARY place, and He boldly warned people about it.

It's sad when people say WWJD (What Would Jesus Do?) and they have no idea what Jesus would actually do. They have some idea of a pretty Jesus speaking kind words, and they forget that Jesus drove out the money changers in the temple with a whip. He was zealous for His Father.

And when His followers are zealous too, and when they deeply believe the gospel that they share with others, and when they can't help but share it with passion because they know it is true, they get accused of being imposters!

Yet in all of this, there is a great reason to rejoice! They are again in the company of Paul, who rejoiced after being beaten, because he was counted worthy to suffer shame for the name of Jesus. (Acts 5:41)

And the winner is...

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An excerpt from "In Pursuit of Praiseworthy Motherhood"

Here is an excerpt from the beginning of chapter 3:

"This is one of the things I am most excited about telling you, because this one thing has made a HUGE difference in our house.

Let me share with you what I have learned and seen first hand from experience. We even have a rule in our house: complaining and whining is not allowed. We treat it like a major offense. Because the Bible says, “Do everything without complaining or arguing.” (Phil 2:14) We don’t allow our children to complain, grumble, or argue.

But here is where it gets interesting. Even though I have disciplined my oldest son consistently every time he was disrespectful or whiny, even though I thoroughly taught him that complaining is never allowed, I still dealt with whining and complaining on a daily basis.

For a while, I couldn’t figure it out. What was I doing wrong? I was being consistent with discipline. I had trained him and taught him verbally. Why was he still not changing?

Finally, God allowed me to realize what I needed to do. It wasn’t until I changed one thing in my parenting that I saw a HUGE, almost night and day difference.
And here is the secret:"

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